The Happy Kamper: Advice Column
Advice Column Written and Edited by the KAMP News Team
I have been talking to this guy in my class for pretty much the whole semester. He sits behind me and we’re both very flirty with one another. But I can’t tell if he likes me or not. Should I just ask for his number or ask his friend who’s also in the class if he has a boyfriend? I’m not sure how to pursue it. What do you think I should do?
Being unsure about someone’s feelings toward you can always be nerve-racking, especially when you’re into them! On the one hand, this guy could just be a flirt who’s not actually that into you. But on the other hand, this guy is flirting because he could genuinely be interested in you. There can be some anxiety in thinking about how he could feel, but that shouldn’t stop you from finding out. Here are your options.
One, you could ask the guy’s friend if he has a boyfriend. It’ll be the quickest way to find out if he’s available or not, but the friend can tell your guy that you’re into him. If you want to keep your crush lowkey, I don’t recommend this approach because people talk! This is about you and your guy, and including other people can complicate your simple flirting. I only recommend this approach if you’re shy because putting yourself out there can be scary no matter what.
Two, you could ask for his number, but you’ll have to specify the reason why. Again, if you want to keep your crush lowkey, make it about class. Getting together to work on homework or studying is a great way to spend more time together. With this option, you’ll be able to see if the flirting continues outside the classroom. If you want to be straight up, ask for his number and tell him it’s because you’re interested. Being bold goes a long way!
Whatever option you choose, just remember that it’s never that deep. Being young and in college is a great excuse to put yourself out of your comfort zone. At the end of the day, he’s just a guy from your class. If he’s into you, that’s great! If he’s not, that’s okay too. Don’t let fear keep you from trying.